Talk About Your Good Birth Experiences!

Those of us who have embraced birth in all its power and strength should start sharing about it!

We need to share, with all who are interested, what we have accomplished.  Have you ever noticed that people are so fast to tell you about how bad or scary their birth was, or a family member’s birth?  Do you realize that the more we stay quiet and let those be shared but not our stories the more we perpetuate the lie that birth should be feared!  The only way to counter the fear of birth is to let people know that it does not have to be a fearful event!  We all must have a respect of birth and realize that ultimately we are not in complete control but that we can for sure effect our outcome by the things we expect birth to be.

So many people expect birth to be a scary, painful and fearful event.  When they have this expectation this is generally what they get.  This is so sad because it does not have to be the case.  With knowledge and the right support we can have a better experience.  We can and should fill our minds with positive thoughts, expectations and outcomes. We can build stronger confidence, faith and belief in our body.  If we do these things we will come to find that our bodies are so much more capable and we are more powerful and stronger than we every knew!  We can help others do this when we share our own experience of powerful birth.

Now….do not get me wrong!  Birth is not a cake walk!  It will always bring you to a place of surrender and doubt!  The majority of us have had to work very hard, even when birth was a great experience.  We should never be afraid of hard work!  In reality birth will be easy compared to the next 18 years of loving, nurturing and raising a human.

It is my belief that the fear of birth is what drives up the complications and poor outcomes.  Of course this is not always the case, we cannot always fix every problem with our mindset.  What we can do is have positive expectations but also an open mind to respond to whatever may come our way.

When we share our story of a good outcome and birth experience it allows others to see what is possible.  I know I am so thankful for the person who first told me about her home births and her sharing is what started me down the road of seeking out the same type of care for myself.  We are also able to let others see that we have a confidence that they too can have.

I think the reason we are reluctant to share our great stories is  because we don’t ever want to offend anyone.  I am sorry but if someone gets offended because you had a good experience that is their problem not yours.   Of course this does not mean you should pin everyone down and tell them everything.  What I am talking about is for example…..you are sitting with a group of other women, perhaps at a park or moms group or playdate….a pregnant mom is talking about her upcoming birth and everyone starts telling her about how terrifying theirs was.  This is a perfect time to also chime in with how you had a good experience and that it is also a possibility for her.  Do not be forceful in your approach but also do not be afraid to share because you have a different perspective than everyone else present.  Of course we should never force our opinion on others but for sure at least put the idea out there that birth can be good!    You have no idea what futures you may impact by letting other people know how safe and good birth can be.  Your story is just as valuable and important as all the other scary birth stories.

I know this can be sensitive but as an elder mother, (I only say that because I have been a mother for 27 years now, 8 times over and have worked with many women) I have seen how one woman sharing her story can impact other women.  Even if you only ever impact one other woman to think deeper about her choices you have impacted society for the better.  Do not discount the power of this duplicated.

Have your good birth stories been received well?

Have you been shut down from sharing your good birth story?

Have you been reluctant to share? If so why?

 

Home birth is a valid and safe option with the right provider.

As a birthing mother I wanted to make sure that the provider I chose was someone who knew what they were doing and who I knew would keep me and my baby safe.  I also wanted someone who I liked personality wise.

Now as a legally practicing home birth midwife I encourage potential clients to ask questions of the providers they are interviewing, be that Dr’s or midwives, about their statistics.  How many births have they attended?  What was their training like?  How many complications have they managed, what type?  How would they manage this specific complication?  How many moms were successful in VBAC?  How many moms ended up with a c-section? And many many more questions.  It is important that you are comfortable with your midwife, not only from the standpoint of personality compatibility but also from an education and experience perspective.

What makes me really sad is when people simply call themselves a midwife but have not done any work as an apprentice under the supervision of a senior midwife.  In the home birth world it is imperative to have worked under supervision of someone more experienced so that you can have a guiding hand should you need one in, at least, your first 50 births you manage.  Book knowledge alone is never going to cut it when it comes to complications that can and do arise in birth!  It honestly infuriates me when a so called ‘midwife’ gets a bad outcome but she never had any formal training or apprenticeship and was someone who simply asserted herself into the birthing world only a few years ago.  Some say that if midwifery was legal in all states this would never happen.  I disagree because we often have properly credentialed and legal midwives who also end up with bad outcomes.  There really is no perfect scenario.  Licensure cannot possibly address the entire issue because there will always be those ‘under the table’ midwives and there is no way that just because you hold a credential means you are going to always make the best judgement calls.

We also have the problem of hospital staff looking down on midwifery and legal midwives.  This creates a tension for the families that should not be there.  The reality is that in countries where midwifery is respected and more common they have much better outcomes for women and babies.  This is a fact that cannot be denied.

Then we have the other issue of is hospital birth really safe?  This is a direct quote from an article I recently read written by a hospital based OB/GYN (1): “Unfortunately, giving birth at a hospital isn’t universally safe. NPR reported that the United States is the only developed nation with an increasing rate of maternal death, which has more than doubled from 1987 to 2015. According to the Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation, it is now nearly twice as dangerous to give birth here as it is in Britain, France or Germany, despite the fact that the United States spends more on health care per capita than these countries. ACOG notes that the statistics are even more dire among minorities, with black women being three to four times more likely to die than white women.”

As a Certified Professional Midwife I hold the only national credential that specializes in the home birth setting.  This credential also requires book knowledge and many months, and often several years, of apprenticeship under a senior midwife.   This is the only credential that focuses on out of hospital care.  My specialty is providing respectful patient participation prenatal care along with peaceful, gentle and safe birth for mom and baby.  My clients participate in shared decision making and are never shamed for their decisions.  Their babies are born gently and safely at home.  I carry all the needed items to respond to any emergency.  When the need arises to go to the hospital we go!

I have one more baby to arrive to finish out 2019 but I did go ahead and compile my statistics so far for 2019.  To be totally honest this was a very difficult year for me in my practice.  I had to learn many lessons and solidify theories, some of which are:

  • Transferring to the hospital does not insure a good outcome. In fact, going to the hospital can cause greater harm than staying home.
  • Babies can be born early and perfectly healthy with no need for medical intervention after birth.
  • Breech babies can be born at home as a planned event with no bad outcomes.  I already knew this as I had a couple of surprise breech babies in previous years with grandmultips but this year 2019 started off with a planned breech at home which was a first for me.  When I really researched what was best for my client and for her baby in respect of their wishes it was clear that she was not guaranteed a better outcome by us choosing to go to the hospital.  We practiced shared decision making with clear guidelines of what we were all comfortable with and had a great outcome at  home.  Disclaimer…I take these cases very individually and reserve the right to decline this service for anyone at any time.  This is not something I will offer every family with a breech.
  • Chiropractic care can help a struggling baby, better than NICU teams, when the baby endured a difficult delivery.
  • There are many unknown causes for infections in babies and no matter how many spinal taps and NICU stays Dr’s require they are often clueless as to the cause or the best treatment moving forward.

In regards to that here are my statistics for 2019:

Home birth is safe with Sabrina Bias CPM

I support natural birth out of the hospital with great respect for the fact that we do not have perfect bodies and therefore things do not always go as planned.  I am not afraid to transport a mom or baby if it is needed.  Most of the time birth is perfect and beautiful and needs nothing more than encouraging respect, love and support.  However, I am comfortable with and do have the skills to respond to any emergency that may come up.

I am so very thankful for the years I spent working under the supervision of more experienced midwives.  I was able to encounter a wide variety of complications that now help me to have a more well rounded view of birth and emergency response, critical thinking skills and respect for each family’s wishes and desires.

Midwifing is not a right it is a very great responsibility and I am very grateful for each and every family who trusts me to be on their team!

 

1  https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/31/opinion/home-births.html?fbclid=IwAR2qKzrXsJ5hrCkojp4IL01U7O6aZFFJlthKbaxMEyc7BiqeCnE37aACVH8

Exciting new things are happening here!

Dear friends and supporters!

 

I am so excited for the new stuff I have planned for my business!

I have been tirelessly working hard to finish gaining the experience I

need to get my CPM and in the meantime have been struggling to

keep enough money coming in to support my  family.  I got a great

idea recently to use my knowledge to reach and help women all

over the place by being a virtual doula or childbirth educator.

 

I AM SO EXCITED TO BE ABLE TO REACH MORE WOMEN AND

EMPOWER THEM TO HAVE THE BIRTH THEY DESIRE!

 

Why not use awesome technology for good use?

 

I have been traveling this county for the last year helping women

to have beautiful births.  I have discovered there are many

women who live too far away from anyone to hire a doula or

go to a childbirth class.  This is why I decided to fill that gap by

offering my services virtually.  Sadly, I would not be able to be

present with them physically while they labor but I could have

taught them and worked with them and a partner to such a

degree that they would be much more prepared than

they would be otherwise.

 

I am going to offer several new things!

First off is the virtual doula!

I would love to work with you no matter how far away you are! Let me

know if this sounds like something you would like and  I will

send you information on how to work with me directly.  This will be

done over skype, hangouts, facetime or we could just do it verbally

via a phone call!  I personally like doing a webcast were we can see

each other and I can share visuals with you and you can clearly see

the techniques I will show you.  However, I want to also meet the

needs of each family specifically so I do not follow rigid rules,

whatever you want.

Secondly is daily affirmations and support!

Leaving your email address will automatically get you signed up for my

daily inspirations! I’ll send you a short note every day that will help you

and encourage you to have the birth you desire. Affirmations and belief

are huge when you are trying to achieve something big.  Natural

childbirth is hard work and your mental mindset makes all the

difference.  Daily affirming to yourself that you are powerful and can

do it will take you to your goal!

 

Virtual doula

 

NOW I WANT TO SHARE WITH YOU WHAT I AM REALLY EXCITED ABOUT!!!

 

I have decided to put all of my knowledge and experience to book form!

I am writing a book that I want to have published by July!

 

I do not share much of my own birth stories as I focus on the needs

of the women I serve. My passion for helping women grew from my

own experience of birth.  With my pregnancies and deliveries I have

experienced so very much and have learned so very much!

 

In my new book I am writing about my birth stories from

an interesting perspective. I will share the highs and the lows

and the lessons from each.  There will also be tons of information

about the research behind policy and procedures.

 

The main focus of this book is

EMPOWERING WOMEN TO HAVE THE BIRTH THEY WANT!!

 

There will be more info coming about about this

exciting new venture of mine! So stay tuned!

My whole purpose is to reach as many
women as I possibly can with empowering 
information and support to cherish pregnancy,
birth and mothering!

 

Thank you again for your amazing support and please share

this with whomever you think may benefit from it!

 

 

 

 

Giving women choices!

The whole reason I am in this work is to empower women.  So many do not have any clue that they have choices and options in their prenatal care and birth.  My goal is to reach as many women as I can with this knowledge.  Knowledge IS power.  When we provide knowledge to women they are empowered to make better choices, INFORMED choices.  Women are at a great disadvantage when their care providers do not give them all the options available to them.  It is even more tragic when women learn on their own that they do have options then go to their care provider and are treated badly for wanting something different!  This is crazy to me!

 

Sadly what is typical is that OB’s (for the most part) do not like to deviate from what their normal is.  Most hospital nurses do not like to deviate from the typical medicated labor and birth.  While this makes their job easier,  it takes so much from the women and babies.  Birth is a trans-formative experience! With the right support and preparation woman can attain success!!

 

I had a breath of fresh air recently when I served a VBAC momma as her doula in a hospital birth.  She had a beautiful and wonderful experience with a hospital OB.  This was so refreshing to me!!  How I needed to participate in a birth in a hospital with a Dr who respects and believes in the woman’s body and the woman’s intuition!!  As we progressed in her pregnancy and he agreed to her birth plan I was apprehensive and concerned for the delivery.  This wonderful Dr was so patient with this momma and baby!  He respected her space and trusted her body.  He was not looking for any little reason to section her.  He encouraged her to deliver in a upright position and was so patient for the third stage.  This VBAC momma got everything she wanted in her birth!  This wonderful Dr also stayed after his rotation was over so he could deliver his patient.  Again, something I never see at hospitals.  These Dr’s are so few and far between.  We need to show our support for these rare gems!

 

Most of us who offer home birth do so, not because hospitals are evil, but because women have the right to choose where they give birth and with whom they are attended by.   Women have the right and deserve the respect to have some say in her birth.   Women are simply more comfortable and can have a better birth all around being in her own space.  The problem is that many of us are pushed out of the hospital due to the lack of tolerance to the simple idea that women need to have some control and choice in their experience.    When I see a Dr or nurse who understand these simple concepts it renews my faith that there are still some out there.

 

THANK YOU DR GREGORY POTTS AND NURSE JEN AT MERCY WASHINGTON HOSPITAL IN WASHINGTON MISSOURI!!

 

If you live in this area and are looking for a Dr who will truly support you in your natural hospital birth then you need to meet Dr Potts!

Ever learning, and the strength of women.

As I attend more and more births I learn from every single one.  I am often bewildered in the experience.  I am baffled sometimes at what happens.

 

I have so many thoughts in my mind right now about we as women and our current state of being.  Are we stronger now than we were 100 years ago?  Many would say ‘yes!” I am not so sure. Can we naturally birth our babies like women could 100 years ago?  Honestly, I would have to say no.   I believe many things have contributed to this. In years past women would pass on their stories of birth to their daughters and grand daughters and nieces and friends.   Today so few women have natural birth stories to share that it is getting so hard to find them.  This has really affected the outcomes of so many women.  I really think that some women are not prepared for the hard work of birth.  This is due in part to the lack of sharing of times past.  Also this sharing is a symptom of our larger issue of lack of true family and community, however this is another huge topic not to be delved into now.

 

Those of us who have done this hard work of natural birth need to share these experiences with others who share that they would like to have one.   Please do not try and scare them out of this choice! Rather gently let them know that it IS work but oh so worth it!  We DO have the strength to accomplish this hard work.  However, we have to be in touch with this reality that it is work, it is not called labor because it is easy.

 

I have witnessed first time moms who have fallen for propaganda that birth will not hurt.  What we need to be telling them is that it will be intense and it will be work but we CAN do it.  If we tell them it will not hurt we are setting them up for failure.  I also hear a lot of women saying they cannot get on top of the pain.  FORGET that!  Birth is so intense and awesome it will overcome you!  What you need to do is learn how you will ride the waves.  You will not have a good outcome if you try to stay on top of it.  You honestly have to just let go, you are not in control when you are in labor, in a sense I mean.  We want you in control meaning you make choices, but as far as controlling the sensations, you will not have control of that.  What has worked for me and other women who PREPARE  is to practice serious relaxation and control of our thoughts when the waves come.  You need to find a way in which you can simply relax all of your body and focus your mind on staying calm and allow what needs to happen in your body happen.  This is not easy, again it is work, this is why we call it LABOR.

 

A huge part of why I do this work is to communicate this truth with women.  It does not serve you at all if we never address this issue.  I have seen the fact that the lack of addressing this leads to women not able to birth their own child.  This is so sad. Yes, we do have the option to simply get a c-section because we are not prepared for the job we have, however that then opens us to a whole other set of complications and things we will have to work through later.  How about we do the preparation and work before hand.  This is what I vow to do for all my clients.  Lets work together to get you prepared for birth.

21 years and counting

So today my oldest son turns 21.  WOW, how time flew by.  It was the experience from his birth that made me realize  that hospitals don’t always have my best interest in mind when they force their policy on you.   When I went in thinking my water was leaking they confirmed it was and said that I needed induction.  After 24 hours and not progressing past 6 centimeters they scared me into a c-section.   They literally threatened me saying that if we did not consent to an operation that my baby would surely die and I may as well.  I was very lucky 4 years later when the same hospital encouraged me to VBAC.  I am thankful for that, however I am still angry for my lack of knowledge for my first 4 births.  That is no one’s fault but my own.  I was not enlightened to the fact that I had options until I was exposed to the writings of other woman who made different choices and therefore had different outcomes.

 

My desire now is to empower other women with the knowledge that they do have choices and there can be a better way!  Women do not have to be railroaded into the medical trappings of birth and all that entails.  Homebirth is a valid option and should be considered.  With a well trained and balanced midwife birth is more safe at home, where you will be respected and honored.  Birth is a sacred event in which both mother and baby need respect, sadly this is not what happens most  of the time.   I want to offer this to every woman I encounter.  If this is simply by encouraging a nursing mom or dropping the hint that they can stand up to things the doctors try and push on them.  Women need to know they have a voice and they can demand it be heard.  Unfortunately, if you really want to have a say in what happens to you homebirth may be your only option.

 

The whole idea just frustrates me as women do have the power within themselves to give birth and nobody really tells them that anymore.  It deeply saddens me when I see so many give away the power they have because of convenience.  You do not realize what you are missing out on by doing this.  I say my goal is to empower women and this is done by educating then supporting by cheerleading you through the tough decisions.  I can truly come along side you in support as I have been down the road of birth myself 8 times.  I have been there, clueless to the fact that there is a different way.  I have also been there with other midwife women who empowered me to experience what is possible.   I have then gone back into the medical system and found that they really do not care about your experience but their policy still must control the situation.

 

This is why my passion to reach as many women as possible is so strong!  Someone needs to encourage you and it will be me if I get the opportunity!  My journey started 21 years ago today and I have learned so very much.  My passion grows stronger every day!

VBAC in Columbia and central MO

My first child was born via c-section.  Many years later when I started learning more about my body and my options I realized that I was a victim of medical convenience.   It really does irritate me how hospitals do not function under an evidence based model.  This is one of the reasons why I have such a passion for midwifery and helping moms!!  In my 20 years of childbearing the medical community has gone back and forth on allowing VBAC and not allowing VBAC’s.  Currently most doctors in our state are NOT allowing them.  Occasionally we find a Dr who will allow a VBAC after on one c-section.  I do not know of one Dr who will allow a VBAC after 2 or more c-sections.

 

THIS IS WHY WE NEED MIDWIVES!

 

Women NEED and option to birth naturally.  The research does not indicate a huge increase in risk of uterine rupture with subsequent surgical deliveries.  There is plenty of research that proves that multiple c-sections do increase the risk of placenta accreta.  This is a problem for pregnancy no matter how you chose to deliver your baby.  The evidence shows that many c-sections cause more issues and risks than VBAC’s.

 

I am saying all this to get the word out that YOU DO HAVE OPTIONS!  Your birth is yours and no Dr should tell you there are no options. Serving moms who want a VBAC are exactly why I do what I do.