Talk About Your Good Birth Experiences!

Those of us who have embraced birth in all its power and strength should start sharing about it!

We need to share, with all who are interested, what we have accomplished.  Have you ever noticed that people are so fast to tell you about how bad or scary their birth was, or a family member’s birth?  Do you realize that the more we stay quiet and let those be shared but not our stories the more we perpetuate the lie that birth should be feared!  The only way to counter the fear of birth is to let people know that it does not have to be a fearful event!  We all must have a respect of birth and realize that ultimately we are not in complete control but that we can for sure effect our outcome by the things we expect birth to be.

So many people expect birth to be a scary, painful and fearful event.  When they have this expectation this is generally what they get.  This is so sad because it does not have to be the case.  With knowledge and the right support we can have a better experience.  We can and should fill our minds with positive thoughts, expectations and outcomes. We can build stronger confidence, faith and belief in our body.  If we do these things we will come to find that our bodies are so much more capable and we are more powerful and stronger than we every knew!  We can help others do this when we share our own experience of powerful birth.

Now….do not get me wrong!  Birth is not a cake walk!  It will always bring you to a place of surrender and doubt!  The majority of us have had to work very hard, even when birth was a great experience.  We should never be afraid of hard work!  In reality birth will be easy compared to the next 18 years of loving, nurturing and raising a human.

It is my belief that the fear of birth is what drives up the complications and poor outcomes.  Of course this is not always the case, we cannot always fix every problem with our mindset.  What we can do is have positive expectations but also an open mind to respond to whatever may come our way.

When we share our story of a good outcome and birth experience it allows others to see what is possible.  I know I am so thankful for the person who first told me about her home births and her sharing is what started me down the road of seeking out the same type of care for myself.  We are also able to let others see that we have a confidence that they too can have.

I think the reason we are reluctant to share our great stories is  because we don’t ever want to offend anyone.  I am sorry but if someone gets offended because you had a good experience that is their problem not yours.   Of course this does not mean you should pin everyone down and tell them everything.  What I am talking about is for example…..you are sitting with a group of other women, perhaps at a park or moms group or playdate….a pregnant mom is talking about her upcoming birth and everyone starts telling her about how terrifying theirs was.  This is a perfect time to also chime in with how you had a good experience and that it is also a possibility for her.  Do not be forceful in your approach but also do not be afraid to share because you have a different perspective than everyone else present.  Of course we should never force our opinion on others but for sure at least put the idea out there that birth can be good!    You have no idea what futures you may impact by letting other people know how safe and good birth can be.  Your story is just as valuable and important as all the other scary birth stories.

I know this can be sensitive but as an elder mother, (I only say that because I have been a mother for 27 years now, 8 times over and have worked with many women) I have seen how one woman sharing her story can impact other women.  Even if you only ever impact one other woman to think deeper about her choices you have impacted society for the better.  Do not discount the power of this duplicated.

Have your good birth stories been received well?

Have you been shut down from sharing your good birth story?

Have you been reluctant to share? If so why?

 

Why Choose Homebirth?

~Homebirth is safe!~

Why should you choose homebirth?

Homebirth is the ideal place for having a baby.

1-The hospital is for sick people!  Why would a perfectly healthy woman go there to deliver her baby?  Why expose your sweet little baby to all those germs if you don’t need to?

2-Your baby was conceived at home why not birth her at home?

3-Birth is an intimate private matter that should not be among a bunch of strangers!

4-Your wishes are more likely to be honored at home with a skilled midwife who does not have hospital protocol dictating what she does.  We midwives are servants to you the mom, not bureaucracy.

5- Birth is safer at home with a skilled attendant!

6- We midwives WANT to get to know you and what is important to you!  We spend TIME with you at every prenatal, LISTENING to your concerns, careful to get you all the information you seek.

We believe in the woman’s ability to birth her child!   Rather than pushing drugs we will empower you with natural ways to take care of yourself and manage the intensity of labor.

7-Homebirth is Cheaper!

Shall I go on?

Check out my pinterest board titled: Homebirth is safer than hospital!

This is where I have gathered several articles with facts to back up the truth that, for low risk moms, a planned home is safer!

Also check out my doula and midwifery boards for lots more encouraging helpful information!

 

 

I am someone who, years ago, believed home birth was an unwise and foolish choice. This was back when I believed I would have died in childbirth had I not had a life saving surgical delivery(c-section).   It was not until after my fourth child that I discovered the truth about midwifery care vs. the medical model of birth.   I read many sweet stories of women who had births in which they were respected and honored and I wanted that for myself.  I was determined my next births would be different.  As soon as I had my 5th child with midwives and a wonderful homebirth Dr. I decided one day I would serve women in the same way.

 

I had 3 beautiful births (they were all scary VBAC’s…lol) and learned first hand that it is possible and safe to be honored and respected in birth.  I learned that I can ride the waves of birth and not die of pain.  I became empowered and from that point on I have had a passion to tell other women about this wonderful secret!.

 

Sadly, I cannot give this to others.  All I can do is share my experience and encourage and support moms.  I can help them and assist them but it is they who must have the determination to be in charge and go for the birth they want!

 

Obviously, this takes a bit of humility as we do need to realize what is wise and what is foolish.   This is why it is important to hire a midwife who has managed different things and knows when there are reasons a hospital may be needed. Mothers Embrace is that safe place where you can have your baby gently and with respect, knowing that if you need to be in the hospital we are going to get you there!  I am able to see the signs of danger and know what to do to help you.  There is a time and place for hospital assisted birth, however for most women it is not necessary.  I really feel strongly that if you really want a great birth you should do it at home with a trained midwife(if you do not have any risk factors).  A well trained midwife is able to handle most problems at home and if something is arising that may need medical attention we can see this and transfer mom to the hospital.

 

A study was recently released that exposed the truth on home  birth vs. hospital birth.  Here is the summary of findings:

“For women who had previously given birth, the risk of severe outcomes for home births was one per 1,000; for hospital births, it was 2.3 per 1,000. This represented a reduction in risk of 58.3 percent. The rate per 1,000 for postpartum hemorrhage was 19.6 for home births, compared to 37.6 for hospitals, a 47.9 percent reduction. The rates per 1,000 for manual removal of the placenta were 8.5 and 19.6, respectively, representing a risk reduction of 56.9 percent.”

This is the study:    Primary source: BMJ
Source reference:
de Jonge A et al “Severe adverse maternal outcomes among low risk women with planned home versus hospital births in the Netherlands: nationwide cohort study” BMJ 2013; DOI: 10.1136/bmj.f3263.

 

My care will help you to find the power with in yourself to bring your child into the world on your own, following your own God given instincts.  I will help you to embrace your birth experience in all it is.  You will be in charge of your birth and your desires will be respected, not ignored.  We will work as a team to have the safest birth possible.  Please also understand that if something comes up and you really do need to be in the hospital, I will be the first to tell you this and get you where you need to be.

 

Finally I need to mention the money.  Midwifery Care & Home Birth offer substantial savings over medical models of care and hospital birth. This is largely due to the elimination of an expensive hospitalization but is also because of the midwifery focus on prevention & wellness without an over reliance on technology that has not proven to be of value for the low risk pregnancy.  Most of our clients will pay cash out of pocket.   Many will be reimbursed by their insurance company as we do file a claim with them for you after your birth.  Regardless, it will cost you much less than going the traditional medical route.