Items I suggest during pregnancy

During your pregnancy there will be times when I suggest that you supplement with certain products. While I have total faith in our bodies to do what they are designed to I also know that there are times when we need to support our body to do it’s job more efficiently.

Here are some of the things I may suggest you take during your pregnancy.

Red Raspberry Leaf Tea, you may drink this anytime after 28 weeks.
Is a great way to get in vitamins and minerals and to help your uterus warm up for labor. RRL tea has properties in it that support a healthy reproductive system and during the last stage of pregnancy it helps your uterus to be strong and ready for labor.

Evening Primrose Oil, to be taken only under the advice of your midwife or Dr.
I will sometimes suggest a woman take EPO in small quantities (500mg 2 times a day max) if she has a history of very long first stage labors or if she has a scared cervix.

Vitamin C E & Zinc
I suggest this combination to have a strong amniotic sac and nice supple skin that reduces the severity of stretch marks and also helps your perineum stretch nicely for delivery.

Multi Vitamin, complete for every pregnant woman
The Master Formula is a whole foods multi vitamin that literally has every single thing a pregnant woman needs! It also has nothing you do not want or need! This multi is safe for those who are carrying the MTHFR mutation too! This is a plant based vitamin from a very well known and reputable clean and organic company. You can order this from me and I deliver it to you or you can order online here: Master Formula Complete Multi Vitamin Supplement

Super B Complex
Women need a great B complex during pregnancy to help support a healthy nervous system and to support healthy digestion and mood. I have all my moms take this as it is the best I have found in the way it supports my mommas to simply feel great! Super B Complex

Book List

Preparing for a natural birth, breastfeeding and parenting can be a BIG job and
I strongly encourage you to read all you can on the matter to learn as much as possible!

I have many books that I recommend families explore!

Pregnancy and Birth related books listed in the order of importance

This is the book to start with! This book builds a solid foundation about normal, natural, healthy pregnancy and birth, read this before anything else!

This book talks about why Gentle Birth is so very important to babies long term!

This book is what I want all my families to read to prepare for labor and birth! You may not love everything in this book but it is so good for helping you realize what your body is doing and what you can expect emotionally! It also teaches some very simple yet most effective tools for coping with natural birth!

This book is great to help you get your mind right in preparation for a natural birth!

Breastfeeding


Parenting

I am listing a couple of books here on the topic of vaccination for you parents to study and come to your own decision about this very confusing topic. This is not something most healthcare providers speak much about but it is a very BIG decision all parents must come to make and you really do need to be fully informed.


I’ve given birth…NOW WHAT?

As a midwife I feel that my work really only begins with the birth!  Pregnancy is one thing and then postpartum is a whole ‘nother story!

I practice a holistic approach to caring for women which is based on a relationship and involves at least 5 or more postpartum care visits to help you get started on a good foot.  The sad thing is that only about 1% of women in my local area are choosing home birth midwifery care!  I am on a mission to get as many women as I can to realize that individualized care is the better way to go but until more women start actually choosing out of hospital providers we all have to work harder to change things for ALL women!

It is appalling to me that when women deliver in a hospital they are turned loose in 24-48 hours and are not seen again by their care provider for several weeks!  So many things can go wrong during the first couple of weeks after having a baby!  Women are experiencing so much more crammed into a few short weeks then the entire 9 months of pregnancy combined!

ACOG is announcing in their May release that they are recommending a change in the postpartum care schedule from 1 visit over 6 weeks to 3 visits over 12 weeks.  While I am very glad to see this recommendation I hope the Dr’s will begin implementing this, I am not holding my breath!  (ACOG has made many recommendations that have not been embraced by Dr’s.) They are also supporting a full 6 weeks of PAID paternal leave with 100% benefits!  Finally they are hearing the women and responding, now all we need to do is get the Dr’s themselves and the employers on board!

In a typical relationship with a family who has allowed me to serve them for their care I see them at least 5 times in the first 6 weeks after birth.  I will see them more if needed.  The reality is that the transition to motherhood, even if it is not your first time, can be extremely difficult.  Half of all women who die from pregnancy related complications do so in the first few weeks after actually having their baby! So these things are happening at home when you have already been released from the hospital!  This is one reason why midwifery care is better because we come to you whenever you need it during that important postpartum period of at least 6 weeks.  You need a competent and supportive provider who will actually be present to help you with the many different issues:

-Breastfeeding

-Engorgement  -Helping baby latch on

-Evaluating for tongue or lip ties

-Healing after birth

-Mood variances

-Watching for complications that can be life threatening

-Evaluating the health and well being of the baby

-Supporting the emotional variances in each unique woman

-And so much more!

There is so much that needs to be done to support new moms!  This begins during the pregnancy through educating women on what to expect, how to prepare for this difficult yet wonderful time and helping women set up the right support system to help her in those early days.

Mentally prepare yourself to take VERY special care of yourself for an additional full 12 weeks, this is sometimes called the 4th trimester.   This is honestly likely the most important phase of welcoming a new baby. This is the time when you really have the HARD life struggles of caring for a new life, a new body, and all the issues that come along with breastfeeding and an expanding family.

So what does this really look like?

Before the baby even gets here make it clear to your extended family and friends that they are only allowed to come over to see baby if they are willing to:  -bring a meal  -do laundry  -clean a bathroom  -do some dishes  -or anything else you may need done!

They also should not come unannounced! They need to check in first to make sure it is a time when mom and baby are not resting or feeding and only stay a short while.

You need to give yourself a full week of doing nothing but caring for  yourself and your baby!   Do not plan any outings, stay home.  Mom and dad and other siblings need a good several days of bonding without a lot of visitors!  Breastfeeding can be hard those first few days and very few women are comfortable doing so in front of visitors.  Have another adult or older responsible teenager in the home to help with the other children, laundry, meals and basic household duties.  This should be the partner but if there is not a partner or if he must return to work right away then plan for this!  Women should NEVER jump right back into their normal work load! They need at least a week to do nothing, then another week to slowly start doing a few more things then still take it easy for a while longer.

As mothers, sisters and friends we should also support and encourage other women to do the same when they become a new mom, I do not care if you are having your first or your 6th baby, the same rules apply here!

I do what I can with my clients who are having home births. I would like to be able to reach more women with this vital information.  Please share this with as many as you can and be this support when you have a close woman going through the 4th trimester.

 

*Link to the ACOG update 

Are You Giving Away Your Power?

Dear Momma,

You are more powerful than realize!

You are the master of your domain, and the domain is you and your child(ren). You are in 100% control of the decisions you are required to make for your child.

There are so many ways that we as mothers give away our power and authority to people and systems as a given, without thought, because we don’t realize there is any other way. We allow our bodies/souls and our children’s bodies/souls get overided by people who we think know better than we do when it comes to our lives and the lives of our children. But they don’t.

As mothers we are constantly being thrown shame about our choices as a parent, no matter what we do. Now, it is important that we talk openly about evidence based practices that are proven to have better outcomes for our children, but many cases, people want us to just go with the status quo. Just do what was done to them, the way their parents did it. Don’t ask questions, don’t be too loud, don’t speak up, don’t question the “experts,” ignore that gut feeling. You know, the one you might get at a doctors appointment or sending your kid off on the first day of school. We are told these feelings are “normal,” and that every mother goes through it. I agree, they are common, but they are not normal.  Stop giving some people’s opinions priority over what we intuitively know. This happens so much so that most of us no longer feel the sense of that  motherly intuition.  We are filling our kids bodies and heads with things that we don’t even have the slightest clue what is it, because we think we have to. That there could be another way, doesn’t even occur to many people.

This isn’t about convincing anyone to do things my way (how boring a world that would be!). But if you don’t know that you have choices beyond the mainstream world, then you aren’t actually making decisions from a place of truth and desire. You are living on autopilot and not considering the impact of living a life in accordance to the status quo, whose only agenda is to keep you relying on it.

So what do I mean by giving away power?

Well, your  power is your deep internal knowing, and then the actions that support it. It is standing up for what you know to be true and not fearing the potential backlash from those who feel confronted by how you live. Actually, you might feel fear, but you do it anyway, because you cannot function living for others and out of alignment with what you know to be best for you and your family.

I see mothers give away their power to others all the time. Sure, there are going to be women who live by the book. They do what they are told, trust the “experts” no matter what, never venture far from their predetermined path as a mother and will insist that they are not run by fear and not giving their power away. That is fine. I am not speaking to them. I am speaking to those who know something feels off. They get that feeling that things aren’t right or they want to change something, but that something goes against everything they are told to be okay and right about raising children. I am here to tell you to listen to that. It is ok, and very empowering to never feel confused or afraid in your choices as a parent. I love how much freedom I have there, and I have that freedom because I don’t listen to other people and have cultivated a deeper trust within myself. I truly believe that if you have that, then it almost doesn’t matter what you do, that faith and confidence will carry you. Even if you do everything totally opposite than what I personally believe to be true, if you feel so good and right doing it, then your family and children will feel that.

Here are 5 places I see mothers giving away their power, where they should not, ever, anymore:

  1. Doctors during pregnancy

This isn’t about how I think you should be pregnant and give birth, but it is true that 99% of women follow a predetermined agenda once they see those two blue lines. From that point on they are under the control of a doctor. They see it as them working for the doctor and not the other way around. Remember, this is your body and your baby.

Your caregiver works for you.

-If you don’t want to drink a nasty glucose drink, you don’t have to!

-If you don’t want to be induced, you don’t have to!

-If you don’t want to labor on your back strapped to a bed, you don’t have to!

-If you don’t want an episiotomy, you don’t have to get one!

-If you don’t want your baby taken out of your sight, she doesn’t have to be!

-If you ever have that “bad” feeling about ANYTHING, listen to it!

I cringe when I hear a woman say, “my doctor won’t let me…”

If that is the case, then I wouldn’t hesitate finding someone who works FOR YOU and honors your wishes. I understand that there are special circumstances where a woman has to do something she didn’t originally desire or plan, but this isn’t what I am talking about.

Women have so much choice and power around how they bring their babies into the world. Excerise that right! Question and research everything!

2. Parenting experts.

The problem with listening to the experts is that they come from all ends of the spectrum. Some will say never ever leave a baby alone to cry, others will suggest you go in the nursery just to clean up the vomit, make no eye contact and get out (ok, that is just cruel, but that line of thinking actually exists). You were given this child, listen to YOUR own intuition on what YOUR child needs.  Ultimately, you know what feels right and what doesn’t.

One example is parent’s confusion over sleep and letting babies cry alone. Many feel if they pick up their baby or sleep near their baby then they are somehow spoiling their baby. On the other hand, they feel terrible letting and listening to their baby’s screams. This is a perfect example of listening to our intuition and how it often goes in the exact opposite direction of what the “experts” tell us (not all experts, of course).  It is rather sad that we believe a vulnerable baby can have too much love and care, or be made to feel too secure. Or to think a baby’s needs go away at night. Understanding child development and listening to our intuition will make examples like these pretty clear.

3. Your mother-in-law, or your own mother.

This might sound a little harsh, but it needs to be said.

I often see mothers posting in mom groups about how to deal with a mother-in-law or their own parent strongly disagreeing about how they do something as a parent. They complain about their beliefs and ask for advice on how to get them to “see their point of view.”

Honestly, the problem isn’t your MIL, the problem is lack of boundaries on your (the mother’s) part. I get that some women deal with really nasty MILs and mothers. It still comes down to boundaries and confidence. If you know your deepest truth and you are confident in carrying it out as a parent then there is no need to convince anyone or make them see it your way (unless they ask or are curious, of course!). If anyone in my family (or friends) wanted to give me a hard time on a regular basis about how I do something then I have no problem setting a boundary, whatever that would need to look like. I think my own mother knows this about me, which is probably why she doesn’t give me a hard time, despite the fact she might not agree with everything I do. Seeing her grandchild and having a relationship with him is more important to her than questioning my choices. That said, I love having open, respectful conversations about it when she wants to.

I do believe some people just like the drama and want to appear right (been there!), but if you just honestly want to be left alone about your decsions then I promise, you can make that happen.

You also don’t need to give away your power by doing something that you feel uncomfortable/unsure about  just because that is how your mom raised you and you don’t want to upset her or make her feel guilty. I know some women are very aware that if they did something opposite of what their mothers did, then that is indirectly telling them that we are not okay with how it was done to us, and that could feel offensive to our own mothers, and we don’t want to hurt them, of course. It is actually more unkind to go along to get along with your mother and protect her from feeling the truth of who you are and what you believe. It prevents potential growth for the both of you.

4. Pediatricians

This goes back to my number one point, but I see mothers putting up with pediatrician bullying so much more. I see women dreading going to check-ups because they don’t want to feel bullied into giving an injection or medication that they feel uncomfortable with or still have very little knowledge on. It is horrible how much we shame women for questioning substances that they must choose to put or not put in their child’s body. No matter what you choose, I think we can all agree that it is totally legitimate to know what you are consenting to give your child and possible side effects. To not ask about any of these things feels totally irresponsible, but we treat women who question as the irresponsible ones.  Only you knows what is really best for your child. Do not let any Dr shame you for demanding information or standing your ground.

Mothers remember, you are not obligated to keep a care provider who makes you feel horrible. You are also not required to attend check-ups until and unless you feel good about going. These experiences can and should be mostly care free and without stress and dread. If you find yourself feeling that way every time you go to the doctor, I would start to consider another game plan. I can weigh and measure my children myself and I don’t need to be told that my clearly healthy and happy child is, well…happy and healthy.

5. Schools

Somewhere down the line we fell for the belief that once our child turns five then we give them away to a system who can supposedly better raise and educate them than we (or the world) can.  We turn them in to a life of much less freedom for the safe bet that when they come out, they will be “educated,” because they can’t possibly learn outside of the starkness that is the school walls. We fall for the lie that learning can only be done one way, at one place, for everyone.

Once again, we are told to abandon our power as mothers and hand our children’s lives and education over to strangers, but we are told these strangers are “experts” so we feel justified in this decision. We tell ourselves they must be educated, even though in reality there are far more experiences and resources available in the rest of the world than are within the confines and limits of schooling. We tell ourselves that our children must be socialized, even though that is all we ever got in trouble for as kids in school. We know very well how much socializing is discouraged in the traditional schooling environment.

I know my condemnations of schooling will get a lot of backlash. I am not so much saying what you should and should not do. I am simply suggesting you know the reality of your choices and question why you have chosen (consciously or unconsciously) this path, because that is all it is. *A* path. Not *the* path. It is not in any way a given or required. It is a relatively new created system designed to create 9-5 workers for a capitalistic society. Why have you chosen it? Was it a conscious choice or simply the next step in what you consider of living life? Are we considering how much of our time, attention, energy, and life we give away to the schooling system? We are on their clock all year, and having to constantly make sure we get in assignments, wake up at a certain time, abide by their laws and rules, etc. These things affect the entire family unit, not just children. Did you choose a life and learning path based on the wants and needs of your family? Or are you molding and shaping your life to fit the requirements of the school you send your child to?

Again, if you think you made the best decision and your children love school, then maybe you don’t need this message. My message to you is still that you have more power than you know, and if you ever feel off or that your child isn’t thriving in this environment, then your job isn’t to ignore those feelings or “fix” or medicate your child or put them in a special class with other children who are acutely aware of a broken system. Your job is to change the environment, not change your child.

Sometimes we resist this notion because it would require us to take a good, hard look at our deeply held beliefs. It would require us to realign our priorites and make big (but often very neccessary) changes in our own lives. And oh it is so much easier to try to change our child than it is seeing them as people who are reflecting back at us what we need to see and change about ourselves, but that is why children are so great and magical. We just have to look and listen.

I know these ideas are not always easy to hear, nor are the results always happy readers. Luckily, I am not in the writing business to make people happy. I am in it to tell the truth and express that which I am most passionate about. I am curious your thoughts on empowering ourselves as mothers and taking back our rights to our own lives and bodies. What is available to us when we live our lives fully and truly for ourselves and the needs of our children, rather than assuming what life with kids is supposed to look like? I would love to hear your thoughts!

Am I Cut Out For Natural Birth?

I hear women say all the time,

“I want to be in the hospital in case something happens” or

“I want to have my first baby in the hospital and if it goes well I will maybe try a home birth next time” or

“If I were at home I would have died!” or or or ……….. it goes on and on.

The problem with this thinking is that it is all backwards.

The rate of intervention and c-sections in the hospitals is not conducive to any of these lines of thought.   The reality is you have a much better chance of having a great birth if you do it at home with a skilled attendant!   Women are dying because of all the routine interventions and because they are not getting the individual personal care every single women deserves!

You see the midwife model of care is so vastly different from the medical model of caring for pregnant and laboring women they cannot even begin to be compared!  In the hospital there are so many rules, regulations, restrictions and policies that hinder a healthy women from having an all natural birth.  The environment itself is a huge issue and you have all these people in and out. You have cultivated a relationship with a Dr over your pregnancy and the chances of actually getting that Dr are slim to none, unless you schedule your delivery which leads to a whole host of other huge issues that cause interventions that cause bad outcomes.   It cascades into a mess and then you arrive at home a few days later wondering how your actual experience veered so far off track and how you ended up with so much that you never wanted and you may even have some type of trauma just because so much happened to you and it happened so fast that you were not able to wrap your head around it at the moment.

You see……the deal is most healthy women do not need that!  This does not have to happen to you!  Most healthy women do just fine and have beautiful healthy babies and have an experience they will cherish forever, even first time moms!

You have choices and you can have a beautiful, empowering, respectful home birth with a caring attendant who will include you in every decision made and you will cherish the memory!

As a midwife I have a deep relationship with my birthing clients and am vested in the very best outcome for them and their babies!!  I monitor you very closely and will get you to a medical facility right away if you or your baby need to be there.

What has got me on this topic?………Just in the last week I have come across so many articles where women are being severely overlooked with severe health issues during labor or in the immediate postpartum period and they are dying or coming very close to it.  NPR is doing a huge ongoing investigation to the death rate of women because these things are not being tracked and no one is being held accountable for them.   These things are not happening in homes this is all happening in big respected hospitals.  It is very scary.   Many of those situations that women come out of saying, “I would have died if I were at home” are often brought on because of unnecessary interventions that never should have happened to begin with that actually put them in danger.  Those things will not happen at home, at least with me as your midwife!!

I do not want you to read this and be afraid of birth.  I want you to read this and realize that you are not necessarily safer if you choose to birth in the hospital.  It is just a different place with many more restrictions on you that make a natural birth more difficult.  Yes, if something really bad were to happen you are where needed interventions can take place but those real emergencies are literally only about a 1% occurrence in normal birth.

You are POWERFUL.

You are STRONGER THAN YOU REALIZE.

You have the POWER to birth your baby safely at home!

I would love to answer specific questions if you are wondering if home birth can be an option for you!

Lifestyle of Natural Living and Wellbeing

As a midwife it is very important to me to be healthy and strong, both physically and mentally.

I have been going down this path for almost 16 years now and I have been learning how to do this first hand very strongly since 2014 when I had an adrenal crash.   It is one thing to do things in a natural way because you know it is best .  It is totally different to be pushed to do things in a natural way because you have become so allergic to everything and sick that your body cannot handle anything but NATURAL and safe and pure.

You see, our environments have become so overwhelmed with toxic overload from man made chemicals that some of us just cannot handle it anymore.  This is me!  My body has forced me to go the alternative route which really is the natural route for most things anymore.  Now I have come to LOVE the all natural life style.  Many of my clients are already here!  Many are much further along in the all natural lifestyle than me.  The thing is there is always someone who is a little behind you and you can always encourage support and guide them!

My natural life has evolved very much over the years.  I have been using herbs and making my own tinctures and herbal supplements for years and have been using essential oils too! However, very recently I just decided to learn as much as I can about essential oils and work harder at implementing them into my life for every day uses!  This is just a natural flow from herbs to oils as and essential oil is just a very condensed herbal infusion.  So different circumstances in my life exposed me to a specific brand of oils and I have felt as if I should be incorporating them into my life and my practice.

This lead me into finding a new and wonderful addiction!

Not only to oils but to a specific brand of oils!

Young Living has opened a whole new world up to me and my senses!  I love these oils!  I have been using health food store oils for many years but recently made the switch to Young Loving and I have been so blown away at the much greater quality of them!  I wish someone would have explained this to me a long time ago!

If you are like me you think an oil is an oil! NO WAY that is WRONG!  The purity and quality and potency of the Young Living oils can NOT in any way be compared to any other oil on the market!

Young Living has a Seed to Seal* promise which is the highest level of qualify control out there!

I have shared these oils with others who have used other brands and they too are shocked at the difference!  I love them so much and a tiny bit goes a long way!

Young Living not only has oils but also has many different health and well being supplements!

These are high quality and I am happy to refer families to use them because I trust the source and they have only natural ingredients.  I can even safely recommend my clients with the MTHFR gene mutation to use these!  I suggest all my expecting and my postpartum moms to use these!

They even have a baby line called Seedlings* and an oil specific for babies called Gentle Baby*

So If you want to know more about essential oils then hit me up!   I will try not to overwhelm you with my enthusiasm!

Media outlets

I was happy to have the privilege of speaking with a local reporter about natural birth!

You can check out that page by clicking here.

The new low intervention birth program at one of our local hospitals drew the attention of Sarah Shahriari, a local news anchor for a talk radio program.  She invited me to speak about my role as doula and natural birth in general.  We had a wonderful conversation about why some women seek a more natural birth and what inspired me to work in this field.  You can read her words and hear a small portion of that interview HERE.

My ultimate passion in life is sharing the good news that all women have the power within themselves to birth naturally.  It takes education (awareness) and a will to do so, however, with the right team and tools anyone can do it!  I am here to help you to realize the potential you have with in yourself to truly embrace the entire birth experience and cherish it for what it is.  You have this primal power within yourself to do this lost art of birthing your baby naturally.  I am just here to make you realize this and bring this out in yourself.

Anytime I have the chance to share this information I am excited.  When more women learn that they have options and find the right team to achieve their goal the more babies there are that come into the world gently.  Babies deserve to born gently into this world with a team who understand that transition needs to be gentle and respected.

If you are seeking a natural birth at home or in the hospital and have any questions at all please contact me.  I would love to connect you with the right team to support you in your desires.

Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful day!

They are listening to us.

I am so blessed to be working with women at a time that one of our local hospitals has decided to listen to the women in the area and are now giving them more choices for birth in their facility.  One of our local hospitals, Women’s and Children’s Hospital of University of Missouri Health Systems in Columbia, MO, has begun a new Low Intervention Birth Program including hiring CNM’s (Certified Nurse Midwives).  Some people think this may take away from the number of home births in the area, but I see it differently.  I see this as an awesome opportunity for women to get a chance at a low intervention birth and have their insurance pay for it.  Insurance companies are still not the best at covering home birth, even with skilled, legal midwives. This causes a big problem for those families who may not be able to pay for the service out of pocket.   What the hospital is doing is great for these families.  They will at least have a much better chance at a natural birth.  This local hospital has taken great strides in trying to meet ladies in the middle in offering them more choices in birth.  It is still a hospital and I am sure there are certain protocols that will dictate how much a family can request, however I see it as a middle ground and a great option for those who may not be able to go the home route.

 

This program is more than the hospital saying their birthing department is a birth center.  This really is a different type of program.  The rooms are much larger and the beds are real, queen size beds just like you would have at home. They have beautiful huge tubs for laboring.  They even have nice birthing chairs and stools.  These rooms are really different.  Not only are the rooms different but the provider is a midwife.  A nurse midwife but still a midwife.  She is backed up by one of the most natural-birth friendly doctors in our area.  This team really does support women to have natural births and I am so happy they are now present in our local hospital.  I hope this program is a success and many women take advantage of it.  It is not a threat to home birth, rather it is a wonderful opportunity to those ladies who cannot have a home birth.

 

Thank you Women’s and Children’s Hospital for hearing what women want and offering more options in your facility!

 

 

 

 

Giving women choices!

The whole reason I am in this work is to empower women.  So many do not have any clue that they have choices and options in their prenatal care and birth.  My goal is to reach as many women as I can with this knowledge.  Knowledge IS power.  When we provide knowledge to women they are empowered to make better choices, INFORMED choices.  Women are at a great disadvantage when their care providers do not give them all the options available to them.  It is even more tragic when women learn on their own that they do have options then go to their care provider and are treated badly for wanting something different!  This is crazy to me!

 

Sadly what is typical is that OB’s (for the most part) do not like to deviate from what their normal is.  Most hospital nurses do not like to deviate from the typical medicated labor and birth.  While this makes their job easier,  it takes so much from the women and babies.  Birth is a trans-formative experience! With the right support and preparation woman can attain success!!

 

I had a breath of fresh air recently when I served a VBAC momma as her doula in a hospital birth.  She had a beautiful and wonderful experience with a hospital OB.  This was so refreshing to me!!  How I needed to participate in a birth in a hospital with a Dr who respects and believes in the woman’s body and the woman’s intuition!!  As we progressed in her pregnancy and he agreed to her birth plan I was apprehensive and concerned for the delivery.  This wonderful Dr was so patient with this momma and baby!  He respected her space and trusted her body.  He was not looking for any little reason to section her.  He encouraged her to deliver in a upright position and was so patient for the third stage.  This VBAC momma got everything she wanted in her birth!  This wonderful Dr also stayed after his rotation was over so he could deliver his patient.  Again, something I never see at hospitals.  These Dr’s are so few and far between.  We need to show our support for these rare gems!

 

Most of us who offer home birth do so, not because hospitals are evil, but because women have the right to choose where they give birth and with whom they are attended by.   Women have the right and deserve the respect to have some say in her birth.   Women are simply more comfortable and can have a better birth all around being in her own space.  The problem is that many of us are pushed out of the hospital due to the lack of tolerance to the simple idea that women need to have some control and choice in their experience.    When I see a Dr or nurse who understand these simple concepts it renews my faith that there are still some out there.

 

THANK YOU DR GREGORY POTTS AND NURSE JEN AT MERCY WASHINGTON HOSPITAL IN WASHINGTON MISSOURI!!

 

If you live in this area and are looking for a Dr who will truly support you in your natural hospital birth then you need to meet Dr Potts!

Why Choose Homebirth?

~Homebirth is safe!~

Why should you choose homebirth?

Homebirth is the ideal place for having a baby.

1-The hospital is for sick people!  Why would a perfectly healthy woman go there to deliver her baby?  Why expose your sweet little baby to all those germs if you don’t need to?

2-Your baby was conceived at home why not birth her at home?

3-Birth is an intimate private matter that should not be among a bunch of strangers!

4-Your wishes are more likely to be honored at home with a skilled midwife who does not have hospital protocol dictating what she does.  We midwives are servants to you the mom, not bureaucracy.

5- Birth is safer at home with a skilled attendant!

6- We midwives WANT to get to know you and what is important to you!  We spend TIME with you at every prenatal, LISTENING to your concerns, careful to get you all the information you seek.

We believe in the woman’s ability to birth her child!   Rather than pushing drugs we will empower you with natural ways to take care of yourself and manage the intensity of labor.

7-Homebirth is Cheaper!

Shall I go on?

Check out my pinterest board titled: Homebirth is safer than hospital!

This is where I have gathered several articles with facts to back up the truth that, for low risk moms, a planned home is safer!

Also check out my doula and midwifery boards for lots more encouraging helpful information!

 

 

I am someone who, years ago, believed home birth was an unwise and foolish choice. This was back when I believed I would have died in childbirth had I not had a life saving surgical delivery(c-section).   It was not until after my fourth child that I discovered the truth about midwifery care vs. the medical model of birth.   I read many sweet stories of women who had births in which they were respected and honored and I wanted that for myself.  I was determined my next births would be different.  As soon as I had my 5th child with midwives and a wonderful homebirth Dr. I decided one day I would serve women in the same way.

 

I had 3 beautiful births (they were all scary VBAC’s…lol) and learned first hand that it is possible and safe to be honored and respected in birth.  I learned that I can ride the waves of birth and not die of pain.  I became empowered and from that point on I have had a passion to tell other women about this wonderful secret!.

 

Sadly, I cannot give this to others.  All I can do is share my experience and encourage and support moms.  I can help them and assist them but it is they who must have the determination to be in charge and go for the birth they want!

 

Obviously, this takes a bit of humility as we do need to realize what is wise and what is foolish.   This is why it is important to hire a midwife who has managed different things and knows when there are reasons a hospital may be needed. Mothers Embrace is that safe place where you can have your baby gently and with respect, knowing that if you need to be in the hospital we are going to get you there!  I am able to see the signs of danger and know what to do to help you.  There is a time and place for hospital assisted birth, however for most women it is not necessary.  I really feel strongly that if you really want a great birth you should do it at home with a trained midwife(if you do not have any risk factors).  A well trained midwife is able to handle most problems at home and if something is arising that may need medical attention we can see this and transfer mom to the hospital.

 

A study was recently released that exposed the truth on home  birth vs. hospital birth.  Here is the summary of findings:

“For women who had previously given birth, the risk of severe outcomes for home births was one per 1,000; for hospital births, it was 2.3 per 1,000. This represented a reduction in risk of 58.3 percent. The rate per 1,000 for postpartum hemorrhage was 19.6 for home births, compared to 37.6 for hospitals, a 47.9 percent reduction. The rates per 1,000 for manual removal of the placenta were 8.5 and 19.6, respectively, representing a risk reduction of 56.9 percent.”

This is the study:    Primary source: BMJ
Source reference:
de Jonge A et al “Severe adverse maternal outcomes among low risk women with planned home versus hospital births in the Netherlands: nationwide cohort study” BMJ 2013; DOI: 10.1136/bmj.f3263.

 

My care will help you to find the power with in yourself to bring your child into the world on your own, following your own God given instincts.  I will help you to embrace your birth experience in all it is.  You will be in charge of your birth and your desires will be respected, not ignored.  We will work as a team to have the safest birth possible.  Please also understand that if something comes up and you really do need to be in the hospital, I will be the first to tell you this and get you where you need to be.

 

Finally I need to mention the money.  Midwifery Care & Home Birth offer substantial savings over medical models of care and hospital birth. This is largely due to the elimination of an expensive hospitalization but is also because of the midwifery focus on prevention & wellness without an over reliance on technology that has not proven to be of value for the low risk pregnancy.  Most of our clients will pay cash out of pocket.   Many will be reimbursed by their insurance company as we do file a claim with them for you after your birth.  Regardless, it will cost you much less than going the traditional medical route.