I’ve given birth…NOW WHAT?

As a midwife I feel that my work really only begins with the birth!  Pregnancy is one thing and then postpartum is a whole ‘nother story!

I practice a holistic approach to caring for women which is based on a relationship and involves at least 5 or more postpartum care visits to help you get started on a good foot.  The sad thing is that only about 1% of women in my local area are choosing home birth midwifery care!  I am on a mission to get as many women as I can to realize that individualized care is the better way to go but until more women start actually choosing out of hospital providers we all have to work harder to change things for ALL women!

It is appalling to me that when women deliver in a hospital they are turned loose in 24-48 hours and are not seen again by their care provider for several weeks!  So many things can go wrong during the first couple of weeks after having a baby!  Women are experiencing so much more crammed into a few short weeks then the entire 9 months of pregnancy combined!

ACOG is announcing in their May release that they are recommending a change in the postpartum care schedule from 1 visit over 6 weeks to 3 visits over 12 weeks.  While I am very glad to see this recommendation I hope the Dr’s will begin implementing this, I am not holding my breath!  (ACOG has made many recommendations that have not been embraced by Dr’s.) They are also supporting a full 6 weeks of PAID paternal leave with 100% benefits!  Finally they are hearing the women and responding, now all we need to do is get the Dr’s themselves and the employers on board!

In a typical relationship with a family who has allowed me to serve them for their care I see them at least 5 times in the first 6 weeks after birth.  I will see them more if needed.  The reality is that the transition to motherhood, even if it is not your first time, can be extremely difficult.  Half of all women who die from pregnancy related complications do so in the first few weeks after actually having their baby! So these things are happening at home when you have already been released from the hospital!  This is one reason why midwifery care is better because we come to you whenever you need it during that important postpartum period of at least 6 weeks.  You need a competent and supportive provider who will actually be present to help you with the many different issues:

-Breastfeeding

-Engorgement  -Helping baby latch on

-Evaluating for tongue or lip ties

-Healing after birth

-Mood variances

-Watching for complications that can be life threatening

-Evaluating the health and well being of the baby

-Supporting the emotional variances in each unique woman

-And so much more!

There is so much that needs to be done to support new moms!  This begins during the pregnancy through educating women on what to expect, how to prepare for this difficult yet wonderful time and helping women set up the right support system to help her in those early days.

Mentally prepare yourself to take VERY special care of yourself for an additional full 12 weeks, this is sometimes called the 4th trimester.   This is honestly likely the most important phase of welcoming a new baby. This is the time when you really have the HARD life struggles of caring for a new life, a new body, and all the issues that come along with breastfeeding and an expanding family.

So what does this really look like?

Before the baby even gets here make it clear to your extended family and friends that they are only allowed to come over to see baby if they are willing to:  -bring a meal  -do laundry  -clean a bathroom  -do some dishes  -or anything else you may need done!

They also should not come unannounced! They need to check in first to make sure it is a time when mom and baby are not resting or feeding and only stay a short while.

You need to give yourself a full week of doing nothing but caring for  yourself and your baby!   Do not plan any outings, stay home.  Mom and dad and other siblings need a good several days of bonding without a lot of visitors!  Breastfeeding can be hard those first few days and very few women are comfortable doing so in front of visitors.  Have another adult or older responsible teenager in the home to help with the other children, laundry, meals and basic household duties.  This should be the partner but if there is not a partner or if he must return to work right away then plan for this!  Women should NEVER jump right back into their normal work load! They need at least a week to do nothing, then another week to slowly start doing a few more things then still take it easy for a while longer.

As mothers, sisters and friends we should also support and encourage other women to do the same when they become a new mom, I do not care if you are having your first or your 6th baby, the same rules apply here!

I do what I can with my clients who are having home births. I would like to be able to reach more women with this vital information.  Please share this with as many as you can and be this support when you have a close woman going through the 4th trimester.

 

*Link to the ACOG update 

Are You Giving Away Your Power?

Dear Momma,

You are more powerful than realize!

You are the master of your domain, and the domain is you and your child(ren). You are in 100% control of the decisions you are required to make for your child.

There are so many ways that we as mothers give away our power and authority to people and systems as a given, without thought, because we don’t realize there is any other way. We allow our bodies/souls and our children’s bodies/souls get overided by people who we think know better than we do when it comes to our lives and the lives of our children. But they don’t.

As mothers we are constantly being thrown shame about our choices as a parent, no matter what we do. Now, it is important that we talk openly about evidence based practices that are proven to have better outcomes for our children, but many cases, people want us to just go with the status quo. Just do what was done to them, the way their parents did it. Don’t ask questions, don’t be too loud, don’t speak up, don’t question the “experts,” ignore that gut feeling. You know, the one you might get at a doctors appointment or sending your kid off on the first day of school. We are told these feelings are “normal,” and that every mother goes through it. I agree, they are common, but they are not normal.  Stop giving some people’s opinions priority over what we intuitively know. This happens so much so that most of us no longer feel the sense of that  motherly intuition.  We are filling our kids bodies and heads with things that we don’t even have the slightest clue what is it, because we think we have to. That there could be another way, doesn’t even occur to many people.

This isn’t about convincing anyone to do things my way (how boring a world that would be!). But if you don’t know that you have choices beyond the mainstream world, then you aren’t actually making decisions from a place of truth and desire. You are living on autopilot and not considering the impact of living a life in accordance to the status quo, whose only agenda is to keep you relying on it.

So what do I mean by giving away power?

Well, your  power is your deep internal knowing, and then the actions that support it. It is standing up for what you know to be true and not fearing the potential backlash from those who feel confronted by how you live. Actually, you might feel fear, but you do it anyway, because you cannot function living for others and out of alignment with what you know to be best for you and your family.

I see mothers give away their power to others all the time. Sure, there are going to be women who live by the book. They do what they are told, trust the “experts” no matter what, never venture far from their predetermined path as a mother and will insist that they are not run by fear and not giving their power away. That is fine. I am not speaking to them. I am speaking to those who know something feels off. They get that feeling that things aren’t right or they want to change something, but that something goes against everything they are told to be okay and right about raising children. I am here to tell you to listen to that. It is ok, and very empowering to never feel confused or afraid in your choices as a parent. I love how much freedom I have there, and I have that freedom because I don’t listen to other people and have cultivated a deeper trust within myself. I truly believe that if you have that, then it almost doesn’t matter what you do, that faith and confidence will carry you. Even if you do everything totally opposite than what I personally believe to be true, if you feel so good and right doing it, then your family and children will feel that.

Here are 5 places I see mothers giving away their power, where they should not, ever, anymore:

  1. Doctors during pregnancy

This isn’t about how I think you should be pregnant and give birth, but it is true that 99% of women follow a predetermined agenda once they see those two blue lines. From that point on they are under the control of a doctor. They see it as them working for the doctor and not the other way around. Remember, this is your body and your baby.

Your caregiver works for you.

-If you don’t want to drink a nasty glucose drink, you don’t have to!

-If you don’t want to be induced, you don’t have to!

-If you don’t want to labor on your back strapped to a bed, you don’t have to!

-If you don’t want an episiotomy, you don’t have to get one!

-If you don’t want your baby taken out of your sight, she doesn’t have to be!

-If you ever have that “bad” feeling about ANYTHING, listen to it!

I cringe when I hear a woman say, “my doctor won’t let me…”

If that is the case, then I wouldn’t hesitate finding someone who works FOR YOU and honors your wishes. I understand that there are special circumstances where a woman has to do something she didn’t originally desire or plan, but this isn’t what I am talking about.

Women have so much choice and power around how they bring their babies into the world. Excerise that right! Question and research everything!

2. Parenting experts.

The problem with listening to the experts is that they come from all ends of the spectrum. Some will say never ever leave a baby alone to cry, others will suggest you go in the nursery just to clean up the vomit, make no eye contact and get out (ok, that is just cruel, but that line of thinking actually exists). You were given this child, listen to YOUR own intuition on what YOUR child needs.  Ultimately, you know what feels right and what doesn’t.

One example is parent’s confusion over sleep and letting babies cry alone. Many feel if they pick up their baby or sleep near their baby then they are somehow spoiling their baby. On the other hand, they feel terrible letting and listening to their baby’s screams. This is a perfect example of listening to our intuition and how it often goes in the exact opposite direction of what the “experts” tell us (not all experts, of course).  It is rather sad that we believe a vulnerable baby can have too much love and care, or be made to feel too secure. Or to think a baby’s needs go away at night. Understanding child development and listening to our intuition will make examples like these pretty clear.

3. Your mother-in-law, or your own mother.

This might sound a little harsh, but it needs to be said.

I often see mothers posting in mom groups about how to deal with a mother-in-law or their own parent strongly disagreeing about how they do something as a parent. They complain about their beliefs and ask for advice on how to get them to “see their point of view.”

Honestly, the problem isn’t your MIL, the problem is lack of boundaries on your (the mother’s) part. I get that some women deal with really nasty MILs and mothers. It still comes down to boundaries and confidence. If you know your deepest truth and you are confident in carrying it out as a parent then there is no need to convince anyone or make them see it your way (unless they ask or are curious, of course!). If anyone in my family (or friends) wanted to give me a hard time on a regular basis about how I do something then I have no problem setting a boundary, whatever that would need to look like. I think my own mother knows this about me, which is probably why she doesn’t give me a hard time, despite the fact she might not agree with everything I do. Seeing her grandchild and having a relationship with him is more important to her than questioning my choices. That said, I love having open, respectful conversations about it when she wants to.

I do believe some people just like the drama and want to appear right (been there!), but if you just honestly want to be left alone about your decsions then I promise, you can make that happen.

You also don’t need to give away your power by doing something that you feel uncomfortable/unsure about  just because that is how your mom raised you and you don’t want to upset her or make her feel guilty. I know some women are very aware that if they did something opposite of what their mothers did, then that is indirectly telling them that we are not okay with how it was done to us, and that could feel offensive to our own mothers, and we don’t want to hurt them, of course. It is actually more unkind to go along to get along with your mother and protect her from feeling the truth of who you are and what you believe. It prevents potential growth for the both of you.

4. Pediatricians

This goes back to my number one point, but I see mothers putting up with pediatrician bullying so much more. I see women dreading going to check-ups because they don’t want to feel bullied into giving an injection or medication that they feel uncomfortable with or still have very little knowledge on. It is horrible how much we shame women for questioning substances that they must choose to put or not put in their child’s body. No matter what you choose, I think we can all agree that it is totally legitimate to know what you are consenting to give your child and possible side effects. To not ask about any of these things feels totally irresponsible, but we treat women who question as the irresponsible ones.  Only you knows what is really best for your child. Do not let any Dr shame you for demanding information or standing your ground.

Mothers remember, you are not obligated to keep a care provider who makes you feel horrible. You are also not required to attend check-ups until and unless you feel good about going. These experiences can and should be mostly care free and without stress and dread. If you find yourself feeling that way every time you go to the doctor, I would start to consider another game plan. I can weigh and measure my children myself and I don’t need to be told that my clearly healthy and happy child is, well…happy and healthy.

5. Schools

Somewhere down the line we fell for the belief that once our child turns five then we give them away to a system who can supposedly better raise and educate them than we (or the world) can.  We turn them in to a life of much less freedom for the safe bet that when they come out, they will be “educated,” because they can’t possibly learn outside of the starkness that is the school walls. We fall for the lie that learning can only be done one way, at one place, for everyone.

Once again, we are told to abandon our power as mothers and hand our children’s lives and education over to strangers, but we are told these strangers are “experts” so we feel justified in this decision. We tell ourselves they must be educated, even though in reality there are far more experiences and resources available in the rest of the world than are within the confines and limits of schooling. We tell ourselves that our children must be socialized, even though that is all we ever got in trouble for as kids in school. We know very well how much socializing is discouraged in the traditional schooling environment.

I know my condemnations of schooling will get a lot of backlash. I am not so much saying what you should and should not do. I am simply suggesting you know the reality of your choices and question why you have chosen (consciously or unconsciously) this path, because that is all it is. *A* path. Not *the* path. It is not in any way a given or required. It is a relatively new created system designed to create 9-5 workers for a capitalistic society. Why have you chosen it? Was it a conscious choice or simply the next step in what you consider of living life? Are we considering how much of our time, attention, energy, and life we give away to the schooling system? We are on their clock all year, and having to constantly make sure we get in assignments, wake up at a certain time, abide by their laws and rules, etc. These things affect the entire family unit, not just children. Did you choose a life and learning path based on the wants and needs of your family? Or are you molding and shaping your life to fit the requirements of the school you send your child to?

Again, if you think you made the best decision and your children love school, then maybe you don’t need this message. My message to you is still that you have more power than you know, and if you ever feel off or that your child isn’t thriving in this environment, then your job isn’t to ignore those feelings or “fix” or medicate your child or put them in a special class with other children who are acutely aware of a broken system. Your job is to change the environment, not change your child.

Sometimes we resist this notion because it would require us to take a good, hard look at our deeply held beliefs. It would require us to realign our priorites and make big (but often very neccessary) changes in our own lives. And oh it is so much easier to try to change our child than it is seeing them as people who are reflecting back at us what we need to see and change about ourselves, but that is why children are so great and magical. We just have to look and listen.

I know these ideas are not always easy to hear, nor are the results always happy readers. Luckily, I am not in the writing business to make people happy. I am in it to tell the truth and express that which I am most passionate about. I am curious your thoughts on empowering ourselves as mothers and taking back our rights to our own lives and bodies. What is available to us when we live our lives fully and truly for ourselves and the needs of our children, rather than assuming what life with kids is supposed to look like? I would love to hear your thoughts!

Lifestyle of Natural Living and Wellbeing

As a midwife it is very important to me to be healthy and strong, both physically and mentally.

I have been going down this path for almost 16 years now and I have been learning how to do this first hand very strongly since 2014 when I had an adrenal crash.   It is one thing to do things in a natural way because you know it is best .  It is totally different to be pushed to do things in a natural way because you have become so allergic to everything and sick that your body cannot handle anything but NATURAL and safe and pure.

You see, our environments have become so overwhelmed with toxic overload from man made chemicals that some of us just cannot handle it anymore.  This is me!  My body has forced me to go the alternative route which really is the natural route for most things anymore.  Now I have come to LOVE the all natural life style.  Many of my clients are already here!  Many are much further along in the all natural lifestyle than me.  The thing is there is always someone who is a little behind you and you can always encourage support and guide them!

My natural life has evolved very much over the years.  I have been using herbs and making my own tinctures and herbal supplements for years and have been using essential oils too! However, very recently I just decided to learn as much as I can about essential oils and work harder at implementing them into my life for every day uses!  This is just a natural flow from herbs to oils as and essential oil is just a very condensed herbal infusion.  So different circumstances in my life exposed me to a specific brand of oils and I have felt as if I should be incorporating them into my life and my practice.

This lead me into finding a new and wonderful addiction!

Not only to oils but to a specific brand of oils!

Young Living has opened a whole new world up to me and my senses!  I love these oils!  I have been using health food store oils for many years but recently made the switch to Young Loving and I have been so blown away at the much greater quality of them!  I wish someone would have explained this to me a long time ago!

If you are like me you think an oil is an oil! NO WAY that is WRONG!  The purity and quality and potency of the Young Living oils can NOT in any way be compared to any other oil on the market!

Young Living has a Seed to Seal* promise which is the highest level of qualify control out there!

I have shared these oils with others who have used other brands and they too are shocked at the difference!  I love them so much and a tiny bit goes a long way!

Young Living not only has oils but also has many different health and well being supplements!

These are high quality and I am happy to refer families to use them because I trust the source and they have only natural ingredients.  I can even safely recommend my clients with the MTHFR gene mutation to use these!  I suggest all my expecting and my postpartum moms to use these!

They even have a baby line called Seedlings* and an oil specific for babies called Gentle Baby*

So If you want to know more about essential oils then hit me up!   I will try not to overwhelm you with my enthusiasm!

Media outlets

I was happy to have the privilege of speaking with a local reporter about natural birth!

You can check out that page by clicking here.

The new low intervention birth program at one of our local hospitals drew the attention of Sarah Shahriari, a local news anchor for a talk radio program.  She invited me to speak about my role as doula and natural birth in general.  We had a wonderful conversation about why some women seek a more natural birth and what inspired me to work in this field.  You can read her words and hear a small portion of that interview HERE.

My ultimate passion in life is sharing the good news that all women have the power within themselves to birth naturally.  It takes education (awareness) and a will to do so, however, with the right team and tools anyone can do it!  I am here to help you to realize the potential you have with in yourself to truly embrace the entire birth experience and cherish it for what it is.  You have this primal power within yourself to do this lost art of birthing your baby naturally.  I am just here to make you realize this and bring this out in yourself.

Anytime I have the chance to share this information I am excited.  When more women learn that they have options and find the right team to achieve their goal the more babies there are that come into the world gently.  Babies deserve to born gently into this world with a team who understand that transition needs to be gentle and respected.

If you are seeking a natural birth at home or in the hospital and have any questions at all please contact me.  I would love to connect you with the right team to support you in your desires.

Thanks for stopping by and have a wonderful day!

They are listening to us.

I am so blessed to be working with women at a time that one of our local hospitals has decided to listen to the women in the area and are now giving them more choices for birth in their facility.  One of our local hospitals, Women’s and Children’s Hospital of University of Missouri Health Systems in Columbia, MO, has begun a new Low Intervention Birth Program including hiring CNM’s (Certified Nurse Midwives).  Some people think this may take away from the number of home births in the area, but I see it differently.  I see this as an awesome opportunity for women to get a chance at a low intervention birth and have their insurance pay for it.  Insurance companies are still not the best at covering home birth, even with skilled, legal midwives. This causes a big problem for those families who may not be able to pay for the service out of pocket.   What the hospital is doing is great for these families.  They will at least have a much better chance at a natural birth.  This local hospital has taken great strides in trying to meet ladies in the middle in offering them more choices in birth.  It is still a hospital and I am sure there are certain protocols that will dictate how much a family can request, however I see it as a middle ground and a great option for those who may not be able to go the home route.

 

This program is more than the hospital saying their birthing department is a birth center.  This really is a different type of program.  The rooms are much larger and the beds are real, queen size beds just like you would have at home. They have beautiful huge tubs for laboring.  They even have nice birthing chairs and stools.  These rooms are really different.  Not only are the rooms different but the provider is a midwife.  A nurse midwife but still a midwife.  She is backed up by one of the most natural-birth friendly doctors in our area.  This team really does support women to have natural births and I am so happy they are now present in our local hospital.  I hope this program is a success and many women take advantage of it.  It is not a threat to home birth, rather it is a wonderful opportunity to those ladies who cannot have a home birth.

 

Thank you Women’s and Children’s Hospital for hearing what women want and offering more options in your facility!

 

 

 

 

Ever learning, and the strength of women.

As I attend more and more births I learn from every single one.  I am often bewildered in the experience.  I am baffled sometimes at what happens.

 

I have so many thoughts in my mind right now about we as women and our current state of being.  Are we stronger now than we were 100 years ago?  Many would say ‘yes!” I am not so sure. Can we naturally birth our babies like women could 100 years ago?  Honestly, I would have to say no.   I believe many things have contributed to this. In years past women would pass on their stories of birth to their daughters and grand daughters and nieces and friends.   Today so few women have natural birth stories to share that it is getting so hard to find them.  This has really affected the outcomes of so many women.  I really think that some women are not prepared for the hard work of birth.  This is due in part to the lack of sharing of times past.  Also this sharing is a symptom of our larger issue of lack of true family and community, however this is another huge topic not to be delved into now.

 

Those of us who have done this hard work of natural birth need to share these experiences with others who share that they would like to have one.   Please do not try and scare them out of this choice! Rather gently let them know that it IS work but oh so worth it!  We DO have the strength to accomplish this hard work.  However, we have to be in touch with this reality that it is work, it is not called labor because it is easy.

 

I have witnessed first time moms who have fallen for propaganda that birth will not hurt.  What we need to be telling them is that it will be intense and it will be work but we CAN do it.  If we tell them it will not hurt we are setting them up for failure.  I also hear a lot of women saying they cannot get on top of the pain.  FORGET that!  Birth is so intense and awesome it will overcome you!  What you need to do is learn how you will ride the waves.  You will not have a good outcome if you try to stay on top of it.  You honestly have to just let go, you are not in control when you are in labor, in a sense I mean.  We want you in control meaning you make choices, but as far as controlling the sensations, you will not have control of that.  What has worked for me and other women who PREPARE  is to practice serious relaxation and control of our thoughts when the waves come.  You need to find a way in which you can simply relax all of your body and focus your mind on staying calm and allow what needs to happen in your body happen.  This is not easy, again it is work, this is why we call it LABOR.

 

A huge part of why I do this work is to communicate this truth with women.  It does not serve you at all if we never address this issue.  I have seen the fact that the lack of addressing this leads to women not able to birth their own child.  This is so sad. Yes, we do have the option to simply get a c-section because we are not prepared for the job we have, however that then opens us to a whole other set of complications and things we will have to work through later.  How about we do the preparation and work before hand.  This is what I vow to do for all my clients.  Lets work together to get you prepared for birth.

Doctors birth at home too!

I was so blessed to read this wonderful article written by a physician on her choice to birth at home.  I highly encourage you to check it out!

 

http://bringbirthhome.com/guest-writers/physicians-home-birth-presentation/

 

The truth of the matter is if you want a birth in which you are honestly respected and shown honor for the hard work you are doing you should hire that special midwife who will nurture this to happen.  Normal birth, which is most births, is NOT an emergency, it is NOT an illness!!  Normal birth is a NORMAL bodily function.  Your body is created to be able to do this.  The problem today is that there is so much FEAR tied up in the thought of birth and this taints the truth.  If you want to have any say in your birth please consider finding a midwife who will do what we do best and that is empower and support mothers.  It is not our job to manage your labor.  It is our job to support you and encourage you.  We stand by as a support and are there IF something needs to be done.  We will know and see a potential problem arising and we will talk with you about this.  We have the skills and knowledge to know when a hospital is necessary, and will get you there if need be.

 

I can say that if you hire me as your midwife your pregnancy will be a journey of empowerment.  Knowledge really is power and I will help you to learn as much as you can so that you go into your birth confident and ready.  Birth is not easy!  It is not meant to be easy.  However, it can still be wonderful.  I feel like I can also say this from my own personal experience.  I have had many different kinds of births(c-section, hospital induction, hospital natural, and home birth) and can honestly say the med-free out of hospital births do not compare to anything you could get in a hospital. I also had a great induction with an epidural (no pain) and would still take the all natural, including the intensity, of the home birth!

 

They key is having the loving support of a skilled midwife by your side! ~ 😉

 

Feel free to check out my empowering Pinterest page for birth:

 

www.pinterest.com/sabrinam28

 

I have both a doula board and a midwifery board, both are very encouraging to homebirth!

21 years and counting

So today my oldest son turns 21.  WOW, how time flew by.  It was the experience from his birth that made me realize  that hospitals don’t always have my best interest in mind when they force their policy on you.   When I went in thinking my water was leaking they confirmed it was and said that I needed induction.  After 24 hours and not progressing past 6 centimeters they scared me into a c-section.   They literally threatened me saying that if we did not consent to an operation that my baby would surely die and I may as well.  I was very lucky 4 years later when the same hospital encouraged me to VBAC.  I am thankful for that, however I am still angry for my lack of knowledge for my first 4 births.  That is no one’s fault but my own.  I was not enlightened to the fact that I had options until I was exposed to the writings of other woman who made different choices and therefore had different outcomes.

 

My desire now is to empower other women with the knowledge that they do have choices and there can be a better way!  Women do not have to be railroaded into the medical trappings of birth and all that entails.  Homebirth is a valid option and should be considered.  With a well trained and balanced midwife birth is more safe at home, where you will be respected and honored.  Birth is a sacred event in which both mother and baby need respect, sadly this is not what happens most  of the time.   I want to offer this to every woman I encounter.  If this is simply by encouraging a nursing mom or dropping the hint that they can stand up to things the doctors try and push on them.  Women need to know they have a voice and they can demand it be heard.  Unfortunately, if you really want to have a say in what happens to you homebirth may be your only option.

 

The whole idea just frustrates me as women do have the power within themselves to give birth and nobody really tells them that anymore.  It deeply saddens me when I see so many give away the power they have because of convenience.  You do not realize what you are missing out on by doing this.  I say my goal is to empower women and this is done by educating then supporting by cheerleading you through the tough decisions.  I can truly come along side you in support as I have been down the road of birth myself 8 times.  I have been there, clueless to the fact that there is a different way.  I have also been there with other midwife women who empowered me to experience what is possible.   I have then gone back into the medical system and found that they really do not care about your experience but their policy still must control the situation.

 

This is why my passion to reach as many women as possible is so strong!  Someone needs to encourage you and it will be me if I get the opportunity!  My journey started 21 years ago today and I have learned so very much.  My passion grows stronger every day!

Why hire a Doula?

I just read an article from a mom who hired a doula and was sorely disappointed with the service, rather lack thereof, she received.  This grieves me much.  I do this work because I have a passion to help and educate women in their pregnancy and birth journey.  It brings me joy and fulfillment to empower women through educating them and making them aware of their choices, then following through with REAL face to face support when the big day arrives!  I find it sad that other women are actually ripping moms off and not fulfilling their contracted responsibilities!!

 

Rest assured that if you hire me I will be there for you!  I do not take this job lightly or with small regard for my clients.  My passion for serving women is strong and real.  When you have an empowered birth it is hard to not want to share that with others.  This is not about me.  This is about supporting you to have the best birth possible.  Will I sugar coat it for you and tell you it will be all roses and butterflies?  Absolutely not!  I will prepare you for the real thing, we will talk about all the possibilities.  That said knowledge IS power! When you are know what to expect and have an idea of what things may come up you will be better prepared to handle them.

 

 

I will prepare you before you labor and then when that time comes I will encourage you to make educated decisions based on your plans. If the situation arises that your plan cannot be keep we will navigate those choices together and what ever you decide I remain at your side supporting you and encouraging you in your choices!   Sometimes no matter how much we prepare plans change and that is okay.  It does not mean you are not strong enough, it just means we are not in complete control of birth.